112 OUR URGES
112 OUR URGES
Every minute of every day, we get urges; it could be a simple thing, like craving potato chips or chocolate or it could be something more serious, like screaming out loud or roasting our boss over a slow burning fire. [Why am I hearing so many yeh, yeh’s out there?]
These urges are generated by the feelings we have for the emotions that come at us from the people or situations that are in our lives and can be boiled down to two basics; positive and negative.
Every single personality and event will, has or is happening to everyone else in the world, so how can that guy look so peaceful when his world is in tatters while I am plain blown away?
Two things;
First – The way we look at what is happening.
In today’s world, we are continually being told that we are the important element in any situation we are in. Things around us should not stop or hinder our schedule or impede our progress toward our goal. When this happens, we are told that it is wrong and that we should be upset at the originator of the circumstances; whether it is a person, creature or thing. [Did you see what that person did to me? And we proceed to tear their heart out in our mind; satisfying that urge to kill feeling but not actually doing it.]
Our focus is selfishly on what happened to us; our life, our pleasure and/or what we want.
This inward focus keeps us from seeing what really happened and generates these faults negative urges. Understanding what the other person, creature or thing is or had to do, sometimes just to survive, will calm our negative urges and may even generate enough positive urges to compel us to help them out of their situation.
Second – The rules that we are following to make the decision about what should be happening.
I have seen many car drivers stop, where they are not supposed to stop, to let another car go ahead of them, to satisfy an urge to do a kind deed to someone. They don’t realize that they have forced the line of cars behind them to needlessly stop too. This satisfies their urge to be kind to one person but they have added to the frustrations of many more people and have caused themselves and everyone else to do an illegal act; thus, breaking the law also.
Not realizing what they have done to satisfy their urge, they drive away content while the other drivers are, in their minds, tearing their heart out.
As we give in to our urges and do the things that are not healthy or lawful, we show others how to do the same thing; teaching our friends, neighbours and family how to give in to their urges and increasing unhealthy living and lawlessness.
Everyone has urges but controlling the bad ones takes a greater force than most of us possess. God’s word says that love is the greatest force; what or who you love will be seen by whose urges you give in to. Your own or Gods; love Him by obeying Him and teach your friends, neighbours and family how to control their negative urges by controlling your own.
True love is so rare today that, because it is so out of place, it is thought to be wrong and everyone’s urge is to stop it. Your urges; can you trust them?
